society has a problem with polyamory and are unwilling to understand its completeness. have you ever not wanted ties with someone so you could do your own thing? that’s the center of polyamory. it’s not marrying many people and having sex with them all. we aren’t a species that submits and commits to a single being other than God who isn’t even a being but a spiritual leader. men don’t have the same reproduction cost as women. it takes a woman 9 months to reproduce and a man 5-7 minutes on average. females know of their parental status and have that 100% satisfaction while men don’t. in other words, females know the baby is theirs because they’re carrying it in their womb. men aren’t. as a sexual species that reproduces for survival of the world just as any other species, submission to a single being is not necessarily ideal. i’m not saying i don’t agree with monogamy or don’t want to get married one day because i definitely would like to. but, our society downgrades those people that decide to live a polyamorous life and with the facts of human life, society is a little fucked with this idea. i’m tired of seeing women, myself included, being called sluts for not wanting to be in a relationship and experience what they like and what they don’t. i’m tired of men being called players for being honest with females that they don’t want to settle down. the divorce rates are increasing and has anyone thought that maybe this pressure of monogamy and marriage has come so rapidly and aggressively that people are terrified to be on their own and then end up in unsatisfying relationships? take your time to first, find yourself. it’s so important to be okay on your own and to love yourself so that if you aren’t with anyone, your world is still moving. second, experience the world. experience those that you enjoy and those that you don’t. don’t put up with the shit that you don’t like. nobody has the time or the energy for that. experience the world and the different paths you take throughout life and how they connect. third, learn from anyone you encounter. take in lessons from others. listen. people have wise things to say a lot of the time if you would just listen. don’t get caught up in society’s expectations and listen to other perspectives. fourth and finally, take life one day at a time. shit, even an hour at a time. if i’ve learned anything in my life and through the past few years, it’s that planning leads to disappointment. do not pre-plan too much of your life or else it will be an unsuccessful life that you live. let the things that will happen in life happen. don’t waste energy trying to change what the universe has set out for you. it’s not going to work and you’ll end up drained. love the life that you live and appreciate every moment you’re in without wishing and hoping for more. stay humble and mindful my friends.

road-t0-paradise:

I wish sunsets would last longer

(via disturbed-dreams)